I want to talk to you about something that can be a little bit of a touchy subject for some people. Are you really happy with what you’re doing? It’s a question that you can get so caught up in everyday life that you never stop and ask yourself that. You may be really busy just keeping your business afloat, busy keeping food on the table, and trying to keep everything going at home. It can be really stressful and draining. I understand that, especially in the medical field. You go to school for all those years. Then you’re supposed to get out and everything is supposed to go along as best as possible. Sometimes it does, which is really cool. Sometimes life doesn’t add up to the expectations that you had in your mind.
I wanted to share a couple stories with you. I was at a conference recently. One was a physician who came up and started talking to me, and he was just sort of downtrodden. He was sharing with me the last 30 years in a very brief synopsis. Essentially at the end of the conversation, he almost felt like 30 years ago he made a mistake in the decisions he made in terms of where he settled the type of practice that he developed, the building that he purchased, and all that sort of thing. He walked away saying, “I think I made a mistake 30 years ago.” But I could tell he was just going to stay in that situation. I guess what was concerning to me was, I’m not sure he realized he has a choice in all this. There’s no need to go through life just going through the motions and doing something because you have an obligation to do that. I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that I do a fair amount of coaching and life coaching with women and business owners, particularly physicians. There’s always an alternative. It may not even be something you considered. It can be really scary.
The bottom line is you don’t want 30 years to go by and regret a decision you made or a series of decisions you made. So if you’re in that boat, and you’re just not as happy about what you’re doing, and you wish you could have a change, I would encourage you and challenge you to take a moment and think about what it is you really want out of life. Then, contemplate what some of your options are. A change can be really exciting even though it can be scary. You can take what you’re doing and make some tweaks. You can look at what it is you enjoy most, or what sorts of patients you enjoy working with the most. You can make a laser focus effort towards attracting more of those favorite patients. You can add some other services into your practice that you think would be quite enjoyable. You can partner with other people. You can change jobs entirely. You can join a health system. Really look at what’s going to make you the happiest in your life. In the end, we all want to serve people. But we also have to have that personal self- satisfaction and that personal happiness. Sometimes people call me and say that I’m the eternal optimist. I’m a realist. I understand there’s a balance between the two. In the morning when I get up, I make a conscious effort to think about what it is that I really want to get out of today, what’s important to me, what are my top 3 accomplishments I want to have today that will lead me towards where I want to go. I go after that with gusto and excitement. If I didn’t take that time in the morning for meditation, affirmation, and planning I don’t think I’d be able to accomplish the things I want to accomplish, or be as satisfied and happy as I am.
I just want to challenge you about that. It was so disappointing to me to see so many downtrodden physicians who really are unhappy. When I compare that to physicians who are happy, they go about their day and their purpose, and make their decisions a little bit differently. I want to encourage you to at least contemplate doing that if you’re not as happy or satisfied as you’d like to be. If there’s any way I can help, feel free to reach out to me: firstname.lastname@example.org
I wish you nothing but the best, especially a lot of happiness and success, whatever that looks like to you. Take care.